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The Kintsu Project offers support, education and resources about mixed sexual orientation relationships, from discovery to recovery.

Kintsukuroi (or Kintsugi) is a Japanese art form in which broken pottery is repaired with powdered gold, silver or platinum, highlighting with precious metals the previous damage as part of the object’s beauty, rather than as something to disguise. It
embraces the flaws and imperfections, and nudges us toward seeing the object in a different way.

Even modern artists use this ancient technique as an exercise in examining the idea of loss, of synthesis, and of improvement through destruction and repair or rebirth. Italian writer Stefano Carnazzi describes Kintsukuroi as “the art of precious scars.”

The hopeful philosophy behind kintsukuroi has resonated with many, many people, particularly in recent years. Memes of Kintsukuroi pottery and its more spiritual meaning are posted and reposted regularly on social media. The idea of finding the “perfectly beautiful” in hearts that once felt hopelessly broken was particularly inspiring to those of us behind the Kintsu Project.

We emerged from mixed sexual orientation marriages (MSOMs) feeling broken and lost. Even though embarking on a more authentic and emotionally fulfilling life, many LGBTQ+ spouses may experience the loss of family, career, even basic safety. The straight spouse feels the loss of everything they thought was true and certain. And all of us experience the loss of life as we once knew it, disguising our stories and staying partially or completely closeted because of fear, shame, embarrassment, or expectation of rejection.

The Kintsu Project embraces everyone who has been affected by this uniquely heart wrenching experience -- straight partners, LGBTQIA spouses, and their children. Our mission is to provide support, education, and resources to help repair your heart.

With resilient, unbreakable, precious mettle.

“Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in.”

- Leonard Cohen


The 2019 Women's Summit

The Alexandrian Hotel
Old Town Alexandria, Virginia
July 26-28, 2019
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